Tonight in youth group (Ka'os) , we talked about self-esteem, self-worth, body image, dressing appropriately, respecting ourselves, and some boy issues. We had the boys and girls separated for this talk. Allie (one of our youth pastors) read some great scriptures and quotes, the girls got to talk and ask questions, and all of the leaders got to chime in and speak to the girls from our hearts and from experience. I'm sure that everything we said, they've heard before from their parents, but you know how teens are - if their parents say it, it's ridiculous, but if someone else says it, it's definitely true. I hope that we were all able to speak truth into these girls' lives and that they heard us, took what we said to heart, and will apply it to their lives. I know - it's easier said than done, especially at their age (jr. highers.)
I thought it might be nice to print out something our girls can hang on their bathroom mirror (or some place they'll see it all the time) to serve as a reminder of what we talked about. I'm going to suggest reading it out loud....often!
Anyway, I thought I'd post it here for y'all in case you have daughters who could use these reminders. Who knows - maybe you need it too!
confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect.
synonyms: self-respect, pride, dignity, self-regard, faith in oneself; morale, self-confidence, confidence, self-assurance
My self-esteem and self-worth (value) is found in Christ;
not boys, approval of others, Instagram likes or followers, popularity, or my physical appearance. I AM VALUABLE BECAUSE OF WHO I AM IN CHRIST!
I will demand that boys respect me, my body, and my soul.
Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. “
Matthew 7:6 "Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.”
Psalms 139:13-14 “For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb.14I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.”
Song of Solomon 4:7 “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.”
1 Cor. 3:16-17 “Do you not know that you are a temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you? 17If any man destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him, for the temple of God is holy, and that is what you are.”
1 Cor. 6:19-20 “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? 20For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body.”
2 Cor. 10:12 “We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.” (DON’T COMPARE MYSELF TO OTHERS)
Galatians 1:10 “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”(Be who God wants me to be; not who people want me to be.)
Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Don’t be like the world. When they see me, they should see Jesus!)
I won’t pick myself apart and criticize how I am or how I look - it’s insulting to the One who made me! I will love and accept myself and my body the way God made me. He is my creator, an amazing artist, and He designed me perfectly- the way He wanted me. I am made in His image. I am not flawed!
I am more precious than rubies! I am a daughter of The King! That makes me a princess! I am royalty! I will treat myself /respect myself as the princess God created me to be!