The other day, a close friend of mine made a comment to me that has stuck in my head and made me think a little. Me...thinking....scary, I know! This friend of mine said that I'm one of the few people who is nice to him/her without ever asking for anything in return.Yes, it felt good to have my kindness/generosity acknowledged, but more than that it got me thinking about how many times people are "nice" to others in hopes of, or with expectations of getting something in return. It's sad, really.
It also made me think what a crappy feeling it must be to feel/know that most of the people you know are "nice" to you because of what you can do for them. I'm happy that I can be that one friend who is just nice because I genuinely love this person and care about my friend. Hopefully, I am a tiny bit of sunshine in this friend's life, even when everything and everyone else is not so sunshiny.
Think about this: If you are nice, kind, generous, or giving to someone, with expectations of getting something for yourself in return attached, then are you REALLY being kind, generous, giving, or even nice? My opinion is NO. In fact, I believe if you're doing something for someone else in hopes of getting anything in return, it's not only NOT nice, it's downright selfish! That's the exact opposite of how you're trying to appear.
Remember the Golden Rule?? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you! It's a great rule to live by, even if everyone else doesn't.
So what if you do nice and thoughtful things for people, and they can never repay you or give back? Is it really going to kill you to GIVE ANYWAY? Remember, it is more blessed to give than to receive. I know that's a tough concept for many people to grasp. Give it a try though. Trust me, you will feel blessed for sure, and you never know how much a simple act of kindness can mean to someone. There is joy in giving!
To my friend: if you're reading this.....I love you:)